Little black book of dating red flags

You can rip the band aid off now or a year from now when its good and sticky, dirty and tattered. Just because it's comfortable doesn't mean you should wear it.

This is true when you look in your closet and when you look at the people in your life.

Does he have a history of cheating, or has he been faithful in past relationships? Everybody knows that women need some extra attention before doing the deed... Even if it seems your guy is the only one who didn’t get the memo, it doesn't have to be a dealbreaker, says couples counselor and psychologist Karla Ivankovich, Ph D, an adjunct professor at the University of Illinois, Springfield.

Does he treat people respectfully, or do you see signs of uncaring behavior or entitlement? Since lots of men grew up with the quick encounters of hookup culture, they may need a little help fostering a deeper, closer intimate relationship.“Communicate,” says Ivankovich.

A man’s relationship record can tell you what to expect from him when he enters into one with you.

Whether he’s broken hearts orhad his broken, most guys come with some baggage from their former flames.

My single friends recently shared what red flags they wish they had seen through their rose-colored relationship glasses.

“You have to see how someone reveals himself over time."If his inability to say those three little words has you reeling, calm down and chill out, says Ivankovich.

“It’s not realistic to expect he wasn’t going to date or have sex with anyone until he was ready to meet The One.”Katz says what matters are his intentions .

Figuring those out comes down to ascertaining his character.

If he seems to have all the makings of a supportive partner otherwise, don’t be so quick to write this guy off.

We’re a generation that's raising the bar on happiness and that isn't keen on settling for a ho-hum career, which means it's taking some people longer to figure out who they want to be.

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